
Couples Counsel
Threshold Counselling for
Co-Wanderers, Wonderers
& Edge-Walkers
Common Couples Thresholds
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The Threshold of Commitment
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The Threshold of Shared Vision and Purpose
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The Threshold of Intimacy and Desire
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The Threshold of Vulnerability
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The Threshold of Conflict
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The Threshold of Reconnection
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The Threshold of Personal Transformation
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The Threshold of Parenting
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The Threshold of Transition and Loss
The quality of your life ultimately depends on the quality of your relationships.
— Esther Perel
The Pillars of Coyotei Couples Counsel
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Shared Vision & Values
A thriving relationship is guided by a shared vision and core values that act as a compass for your journey together. In our work, we’ll uncover the deeper meaning of your partnership, bringing clarity to the values you both hold dear and the dreams that inspire you. By weaving these threads into a shared narrative, you’ll cultivate a mutual orientation rooted in collaborative growth, evolution, and enduring connection.
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Relational Intelligence
Every thriving partnership flourishes through the ability to understand and respond to each other’s needs, emotions, and perspectives. In our work, we’ll explore how to deepen your relational intelligence, tuning into the subtle dynamics between you. By cultivating empathy and emotional awareness, you’ll strengthen your connection and navigate inevitable challenges with clarity, creativity, and compassion.
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Collaborative Communication
Effective communication is key to any relationship. In our work together, we’ll explore how to create a sanctuary for open, honest dialogue where both voices are truly heard. We’ll focus on expressing needs and concerns with clarity, while actively listening with empathy, curiosity, and respect. This practice fosters deeper connection, resolves misunderstandings with ease, and cultivates mutual understanding.
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Conflict into Connection
Conflict offers a powerful opportunity for growth. In our work, we’ll shift how you approach conflict, transforming it from a source of separation into a catalyst for deeper connection. You’ll learn to embrace conflict as a doorway to intimacy, where both voices are heard, and resolutions are co-created. By approaching challenges with curiosity, creativity, and respect, you’ll foster resilience, trust, and a stronger bond.
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Eros & Desire
Eros and desire are the vital forces that fuel passion and intimacy. In our work, we’ll explore how to nurture and rekindle desire, creating space for vulnerability, playful exploration, and open expression. By honouring the sacred energy of Eros and infusing playfulness, you’ll deepen your emotional and physical connection, cultivating a vibrant, passionate partnership built on mutual respect, sensitivity, and discovery.
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Relational Renewal
Every relationship goes through cycles of growth and change, requiring moments of renewal. In our work, we’ll explore how to invite fresh energy, deeper connection, and renewed purpose into your partnership. You’ll learn to navigate transitions—whether life stages, personal growth, or shared challenges—and turn them into opportunities for reinvention. By creating space for reflection and nourishment, you’ll cultivate a relationship rooted in vitality, joy, and resilience.
Possible Pathways
Couples-Only Sessions
For couples who wish to focus exclusively on their relationship dynamics, I offer 4-session and 8-session commitment packages.
4-Session Commitment: $600
8-Session Commitment: $1,000
Each session is a 75-minute deep dive into your partnership, combining conversation, reflection, and practical tools tailored to your unique situation.
Couples & Individual Sessions
For those seeking both couples and individual support, I also offer 4-session and 8-session packages. For example, with a 4-session commitment, each partner will receive 4 individual sessions and 4 couples sessions, totalling 12 sessions—4 sessions dedicated to your partnership and 8 individual sessions (4 for each partner).
4-Session Commitment: $1,400
8-Session Commitment: $2, 600
This approach supports both relational and personal growth, offering a balanced pathway for couples looking to nurture their partnership while also focusing on individual transformation.
What To Expect In A Couples Session
Couples counselling is a collaborative process where both partners actively engage in the journey toward deeper understanding, healing, and growth. In a joint session, you can expect:
Initial Assessment: We begin by understanding the unique dynamics of your relationship and exploring the challenges and thresholds you're navigating.
Deep Listening & Exploration: Through open dialogue, we uncover underlying needs, fears, and desires, creating space to explore the heart of the matter.
Skill-Building & Practices: We work together to develop practical tools and exercises that improve communication, strengthen emotional bonds, and provide strategies to navigate challenges.
Reflections & Resources: After each session, you’ll receive reflections and resources designed to deepen your understanding, support ongoing growth, and help you implement new practices at home.
The goal is to help both partners feel heard, valued, and understood while offering guidance that deepens your connection amidst whatever thresholds you face together.
What To Expect In An Individual Session
In individual sessions, the focus is on your personal growth, often in the context of your relationship. These sessions are an opportunity for self-reflection, exploration, and developing insights that support both your individual journey and your partnership. In a single session, you can expect:
Personal Exploration: Identifying your current thoughts, feelings, and challenges, particularly as they relate to your relationship. This is a space to explore your personal role in the dynamics of your partnership.
Deep Listening & Reflection: Through deep listening, we examine your individual experiences, needs, and desires, uncovering insights that help clarify your personal growth and your connection to the relationship.
Practical Tools & Strategies: Developing tools and strategies that support your personal well-being, which in turn can enhance your role in the relationship and help navigate challenges effectively.
Integration & Support: Discussing how to integrate new insights and practices into your daily life, with resources and reflections that support both your individual development and your relational growth.
Individual sessions offer an opportunity to focus on your own journey, cultivating self-awareness and practices that contribute to both your personal and relational well-being.
TESTIMONIALS
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My husband and I are deeply grateful for the space Tei has created for us as a union. His presence has been a guiding light — patient, creative, and rooted in a rare wisdom that has gently challenged us to see with new eyes, leaded with strong hearts. His support has felt like sacred ground for our relationship, holding us through moments of vulnerability with grace and compassion. His invitations have opened doors we didn’t know existed, and his perspective has helped us grow not only as a couple but as individuals on our own paths. With every session, he has brought truth, care, and a sense of deep knowing. We feel honored to walk this path with his guidance beside us.
— Lindsay & Lukas, United States -
Working with Tei has been a turning point for us. It didn’t feel like typical therapy, but like having a calm, grounded guide beside us through a really hard chapter.
He’s helped us reshape how we communicate—with more openness, vulnerability, and care. With his support, we’ve faced longstanding patterns, rebuilt trust, and reconnected in ways that feel real and lasting.
There’s something about the way Tei holds space—soft yet strong—that made it safe to talk about even the hard, confusing parts. He’s helped us move through the shame that used to shut us down, especially in conflict.
We’re deeply grateful for the chance to work with him during such a challenging time in our relationship.
— Zach & Rachel, United States -
Losing our baby was shattering beyond description. We didn’t know how to hold the grief as individuals or as a couple. Everything felt fragile and overwhelming. Finding our way to Tei was a true blessing. He offered a space where we could each be with our pain in our own way, while also learning how to show up for one another through it. His guidance gave us simple, steady ways to begin tending to the grief—together and apart. We’re still in the process, still intensely grieving, but our connection feels stronger now, and we’ve found a gentler way to walk through this together. We are no longer scared of the grief, instead Tei helped us recognize the sacredness of this time.
— Micah & Ben, Canada

We are most alive when we are in love.
— John Updike